Family Memories, of the future: A letter to Kiera
A sad update to this post as of 2018, her daddy has decided he no longer wants us to be part of her family, so I will not be able to participate in her life. Our relationship is not what I had hoped for, and I will miss it. It’s sad to miss that which never had a chance of happening. But, before she was ever born, I asked to “not be forgotten about.” Unfortunately, I guess I saw what was bound to happen.
As part of Good Not Perfect’s Spring Balance project, I took on the homework assignment of Family Memories. I thought a lot about the topic, a lot, and honestly, there wasn’t one memory that stood out to me as the a-ha! moment. But, as I thought about memories, I thought about you, Kiera, and the memories I hope to be part of in your future. The memories Dan and I hope to be part of.
I thought about watching you grow up at the beach. I thought about seeing you after a full day of fun, running around, swimming to the dock, jumping off, living, learning, encountering nature and life. I thought about how you’ll fall asleep, hard asleep after one of these days, and you’ll have sand in your hair, and barnacles in your toes, and you’ll be a little sun burned. You’ll be exhausted from all that fun. And, you’ll have a smile on your face as you sleep, pretty much passed out from fun.
I think about teaching you to build your own sling shot from branches you find in the forest. Why a sling shot? I don’t really know. It just seems so iconic, so perfectly child-like. Dan’ll teach you to skip rocks (I have no skills in that department).
We’ll help you learn to build things. Rustic bird houses or things from clay or things from paper. Or fun crafts and kid-like wonderment items. We’ll show you cool science things that I hope you’ll watch in wonderment, only wanting to learn more and do more.
I’ll teach you to cook. I’ll help you learn about food, and how wonderful it is. I’ll help you learn about the balance of food too. Healthy wonderful food, and how important it is to your body to fuel properly. (You’ll need lots of fuel to do all that running and swimming). I think about watching you grow, and change, and become your own person. A person with likes and opinions. I look forward to hearing your opinions, and having my own changed by yours.
I look forward to many years of happiness getting to know you.
So, my Family Memories post is about the future, and how wonderful it’ll be, both for you and all that growing and learning you’ll do. But, also for me, and all that growing and leaning I’ll do with you.
Thanks, Good Not Perfect, for this exercise. I very much enjoyed it.