Lighten up. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Work on being able to laugh at things, especially yourself. If you make mistakes, learn from them, work around them, and move on. Stress can cause many mental and physical problems in your life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are out of your control. If you find yourself constantly worrying about things, look at that’s going on and if you can do anything about the situation. If you can, work on it. If you can’t, learn to recognize that these situations are simply out of your control, and therefore, they should be out of your mind as well.
Laughter is powerful. Smiling and laughing have an immediate impact on your mood. Watch or read something that makes you laugh. If you smile and laugh a little, you will feel your mood lighten. The calmer and more peaceful you feel, the happier your life will be. Accept the situation, whatever it may be, and lighten up with a grin.
Take the good with the bad
No one is happy all of the time. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy the present, and look positively to the future. Obstacles will always be in our way, holding us back and knocking us down – it’s a part of life. Realize this and avoid becoming down or starting to think too negatively about your situation. Good and bad wouldn’t exist and be in balance without each other. Each one teaches us our fair share of life’s lessons. Take as much as you can from events, whether they left you feeling joyful, accomplished, angry, confused, or sad. Treat each event as a learning and developing time. Learn to accept that things aren’t going to be perfect all the time. In completing this, you will find your days much easier to get through.
It may sound cliché and overused, but learn to be grateful for what you have, rather than what you don’t. If all you ever think about is how you can’t afford the things you want, how you’re not “popular”, how you’re not “attractive” enough or no good at anything, your life will become less and less enjoyable before your eyes and all at your own doing. Changing the way you think about things and the view you take on your life can have a big impact on you as a person. Looking around you, carefully realize how lucky you are to have the things you do, whether it be a loving family, great friends, an amazing job or simply a roof over your head. Remind yourself of why you are fortunate to be living the life you do, and focus on making the most of the gifts you have been given. Everyone in this world has something to be thankful for, and realizing that can lighten up your way of looking at life entirely.
Much criticism is caused by people who are discontent with themselves, not with you. What do you want out of life? What makes you truly happy? Who do you want to be? Don’t hold yourself back or fake things to become well-liked, or because you’re too afraid to be who you really are. You owe it to yourself to do one thing: you!
Pursue things that make you happy
Strive for long term goals rather than short term satisfaction. It’s very easy to gain short term satisfaction – a quick high, a fast relief from your current problems. But it is what it is, a “short term” satisfaction and the effects die out very soon, leaving you with an empty feeling that is sometimes worse than before. Set long term goals, goals which take time, thought and effort to achieve. This will make you continually work towards improving yourself and will give you the satisfaction of bringing a permanent change in your life.
Develop healthy relationships
If you’re dating, get involved with activities that reflect who you are, and get to know people who like the things you do. Get involved with someone who loves life and pursues happiness the way you do. If you’re in a relationship, strive to make that relationship healthy.
Choose your friends carefully. Nearly everyone needs someone who cares for them and treats them well. If you have friends who are treating you badly, or are not supportive of you and your goals to improve your life, then find friends that do care about you. If you can’t find any friends like that in your current circumstances, then look elsewhere. If you’re feeling sad, there’s nothing like going out with your friends to make you feel better. Surround yourself with friends who are beneficial, encouraging, and helpful. We all need this continuing, nurturing encouragement to make solid desired progress in life. We also need friends that will lovingly tell us the truth to help us become better people (even when it hurts), not friends that will instead criticize us behind our back.
Maintain your relationship by keeping in touch, making an effort and enjoying your time with whoever the person is. Support each other through hard times, rejoice in the good moments and together be thankful for the friendship and love you share.
Don’t let others drag you and your lifestyle down. If somebody treats you badly, let them know that you respect yourself and therefore they should, too. Don’t let other people decide how your life will go, because you know that’s not their choice to make.
Spending quality time with others boosts positive emotions. We can express our feelings, share our burdens, tell jokes, and feel connected.
Studies show that the happiest people often have several things going on in their lives at once. They have a career, a relationship, a hobby, social activities, an exercise routine. They volunteer, meditate, learn new things, etc. So, if one area of life goes awry, there are still plenty of other areas to help them cope and that are still going well. Try something new: Try to think of a creative vow and write it down. Make it something like: “I vow to give at least one compliment to someone each day” or “I’ll try to control my anger by counting in my head before reacting.”
Make someone else happy
Do something for someone else. With happiness, it is better to give than receive. When you’re feeling powerless to create happiness in your life, do something to make someone else – anyone – happy and you’ll remember how easy it really can be. Isn’t it true the happiest people we know are typically the ones, who for some foolish reason, are always ready to give you the clothes off their back? And frequently it is true that the most discontented people are the ones who are selfish, demanding, and inconsiderate of others. The happiest days of our lives, when we really dig down deep, are the days when we see a smile on the face of a person who we care about. Even helping a stranger can remind you of how much you really have, because of how much you can give. Nurture, volunteer, lend an ear, help a friend, give a small gift to a child- these all help us feel connected.
Move as much as possible, for every reason and for no reason. If you don’t feel like it, put on some music that you know will make you feel like it. Make a CD or playlist of songs that make you happy and listen to it when you feel down. Mild exercise releases feel good hormones known as endomorphines.
Forgive and Forget
Don’t allow yourself to be overcome by anger, sorrow, wrath, or life. When you release others and let them go, you release yourself to live life to the fullest as well. Accept people’s apologies, even when they are not packaged exactly the way you hoped. Move on. Forgive yourself too. Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
Stop trying to be happy
Nobody ever finds happiness for long; it finds them. Don’t think of happiness as a mood, but as a philosophy of life. It’s a frame of mind, a way of re-adjusting your thoughts, not something you “feel” all the time. Be patient, as trying to achieve everything within twenty minutes, or just a day, may not work out as perfectly as you guessed. Committing yourself to this lifestyle takes some serious reflection and perhaps, change within yourself, which will take longer periods of time – so wait for the changes, as they will be worth it. Happiness requires balance. Don’t become so caught up in your own happiness that you forget about everyone else’s. And don’t base your own happiness on making others feel good; people-pleasers are usually very unhappy on the whole. Always remember it’s not the way you live or the way you spend, it’s only the way you think.
Meditate (or pray)
It’s simple, effective, and free. Sit or lie down for 1o minutes, focusing on your breath. Pay attention to the inhalation and exhalation. Set aside time each day for you to reflect on the day’s events and simply have some “you” time.